When was the last time you almost punch someone out of anger yet you end up composing yourself and smiling instead? When was the last time you feel so down but you just shrugged it off and carry on? Do you still remember a day in your life that you were grateful about everything despite of many hardship you were going through? I bet you have a long list of it.
Do you know that your positive responses to the unpleasant situation you are in are actually Sabr (patience)? And the people who have this quality are loved by Allah (سبحانه و تعالى)? Sounds so good isn’t it? There is a verse in the Qur’an that tells us “So endure patiently with beautiful patience” (70:5). So, this simply tells us that having Sabr is a quality that is closest to Allah ( سبحانه و تعالى). But what does Sabr really mean?
Sabr is an Arabic root word means ‘to detain’, ‘refrain’ and ‘stop’. Patience means to stop ourselves to despair, to stop ourselves from complaining and to stop harming ourselves in times of grief. According to some scholars Patience is a good human characteristic or a positive psychological attitude, by virtue of which we refrain from doing that which is not good.
Abu ‘Uthman said: “the one who has patience is the one who has trained himself to handle difficulties.”
As i mentioned earlier, the person who possess the quality of Sabr is loved by Allah, in fact there are several evidences to prove it.
In the Qur’an
“And Allah loves As-Sabirin (the patient ones, etc.).” (Al-Imran 3:146).
“Only those who are patient shall receive their rewards in full, without reckoning.” (Az-Zumar 39:10)
“And be patient. Surely, Allah is with those who are As-Sabirin (the patient ones, etc.).” (Al-Anfal 8:46)
Hadith of the Prophet (صلّى الله عليه وسلّم)
The Prophet (صلّى الله عليه وسلّم) said: “Allah said: ‘If I deprive my slave of his two beloved things (i.e., his eyes) and he remains patient, I will let him enter Paradise in compensation for them.” (Al-Bukhari 5653).
The Prophet (صلّى الله عليه وسلّم) said: “No fatigue, nor disease, nor sorrow, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, even if it were the prick he receives from a thorn, but that Allah expiates some of his sins for that.” (Al-Bukhari 5641, 5642).
The Prophet (صلّى الله عليه وسلّم) said: “The believer who mixes with people and bears their annoyance with patience will have a greater reward than the believer who does not mix with people and does not put up with their annoyance.” (Ibn Majah 4032).
As humans living in this earth, it is normal for us to be in the state of calamity. There are times we feel like giving up especially for those who turned their back to Allah (سبحانه و تعالى). But for those who have found the light of Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) in their heart, Sabr is the best response to a calamity. It will be easier for us to accept the decree of Allah (سبحانه و تعالى). In times of good we should give thanks to Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) and when calamity befalls us, we should endure patiently because we know that Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) won’t give us tests that we can’t overcome and won’t benefit us in the end. The beauty of Sabr is that it teaches us not to break when we are bent. It teaches us to be brave in the future hardship that we will encounter. And it helps us to be more closer to Him.
We must learn to practice Sabr as Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) promised that whoever wants to work on his or her patience will grant Him three things: Forgiveness, Mercy, and Guidance.
How many times you murdered your boss in your mind because he’s stressing you out yet in reality you end up talking to him in a nice way?
Here’s a short film that I found on Youtube that portrays the simplest form of testing your Sabr and how you handle it.
“Sabr (Pagtitimpi)” by Mensahe TV